I'm an avid fantasy reader and anime watcher. It's not secret that I love a good story. But there's more to fantasy than the power of the story.
It has the power to draw me in, allow me to BE in my imagination one of the characters, and express myself through that character. Kind of like the Sims game. It's also one reason why people love Cosplay.
In the words of one of my clients, it allows him to BE someone he is not. I asked him then whether he meant that it allowed him to BE more of himself that he could show in his everyday life?
He said yes, with a glitter in his eye.
So what has this got to do with anything?
Plenty. Fantasy or fantasizing is a very powerful way to allow us to express our emotions in a very safe way. And I don't mean safe like "I don't really have to strangle that bastard but still get the satisfaction" kind of way. I mean that it is safe because it can be secret/ private, and that you are in full control of the fantasy.
Now, there are 2 ways (at least) in using fantasy to express our true feelings (A.K.A. our "True Self").