All tagged Sense of self

Further Thoughts Of Losing A Sense Of Self

"I don't know myself" is a common enough phrase I've heard and read. Another common one is:

"I don't know what I want (for my future/ work/ passion/ etc.)"

In my previous post, I talked at length about what could have caused this sense of loss of self. Through my work with my clients, and through some of their astutely pointed out comments about our work together, I've come to realize that there's actually another cause for this phenomenon, and it is possibly more common than some of the ones I've mentioned before.

On Losing A Sense Of Ourselves

More and more, I've come to realize that a lot of emotional problems (we can call them our hedgehogs) such as:

1) being easily stressed out, 
2) struggles with relating to people assertively and confidently, 
3) anger, 
4) and even some physical issues with no medical causes (such as IBS, sleep problems, fatigue, headaches, etc.);

have at their soft underbelly a quiet core of anxiety. This is not your dramatic panic attacks or even your conscious worrying.

Instead, this is really an overall sense of...unquiet.

It can feel like being restless, or always on edge, or having the engine always running, or even just a general discomfort in your own skin.

If we look even deeper into the core of this type of deep anxiety, we can often find another subtler sense. The best way I know how to describe it (thanks to one of my very creative clients), is to call it a "Loss of a sense of self" or "Losing Myself" for short.